WHAT I WANT(in a friend, lover, boyfriend, partner, husband, future ex-husband, benefactor)
Wonderful:
won·der·ful adj
1. of a quality that excites admiration or amazement
2. suiting somebody perfectly
above all, a man who will blow my mind
an attentive, sexy lover.
hot, and at least as tall as I am
affectionate
emotionally mature
honest
artistic
creative
wants to collaborate on art projects large and small
ambitious
fairly athletic, bicycles, running, yoga, whatever, etc
takes care of himself physically and emotionally—healthy eater, therapy, meditation, etc.
a good cook
massage afficianado
isn’t materialistic, but likes quality
saves money well
isn’t obsessed with fashion, but likes to look good, and has style.
is spiritually aware of himself
will push me to be a better person, personally, artistically, spiritually
loves music and art
can make me laugh, and who I can make laugh
communicative
appreciative
is willing to go out of his way to spend time, when it is important
prioritizes friends and family
makes me fall in love with him every day
different enough from me for there to be some tension, friction between us.
who won’t always agree with me, and will tell me gently
will be connected with me, but comfortable with my need for independence.
prefers NPR
who would walk the camino de santiago alone, but wants to walk with me from france.
engages me in conversation.
listens and remembers what I tell him.
not afraid of silence
not needy
passionate and involved in his hobby and interests.
sensual and seems comfortable in his body.
makes things/DIY everything
isn’t addicted, or at least knows how to deal
eager for knowledge
genuine, and sincere
full of integrity
wants to always be growing and changing
educated and intelligent by books and streets
passionate
wants to be part of a community/family
accepts me for who I am
knows how to sail, owns a boat, or wants to
is my best friend
I have to say, it is very tempting. Not my thing, but good luck to you. I sort of wish I had the creativity and balls to do something like this before you had. Maybe I’ll steal your “what I’m looking for” section and make a girlfriend application (if Tucker Max hadn’t beaten me to that one.)
Hey, pardnah!
Good news! I’m the dude of your dreams. DUDE OF YOUR DREAMS. Get it? I’m wonderful; smart, sexy, creative, blah blah, blather blather…
Bad news….I don’t want you. Nope. We don’t have bananas. We don’t have bananas today. So….what do you think of my de-proposal? pretty clever, aye?
Kidding. I’m not wonderful. I’m ugly, fat, and abusive in every way.
but…good news! I’m yours! Will you please please, oh, pretty please…marry me!!!???
PS: I promise I won’t be abusive to you. I’ve really changed since my 40th birthday. I really honestly truly believe people can change. I did. Just please…give me a fucking chance. Be my eternal concubine. Lets trip the life fantastique. See? Culture. Add that to the list, sweet mounds.
Yours eternally,
Caleb Valerie Agatha Masters
PSS: I was formally a broad, but now I’m a dude. So best of both worlds, aye? Aye?
Honestly, a tough list.
Hi John,
I’ve been collecting this list over the last 14 years. It is basically a list of all the best qualities in each of the men I’ve dated. I don’t expect to find someone with ALL of these traits, but they are definitely things I appreciate in a romantic partner. Are you anywhere on this list?
Joanna